Fear: The Lobster Effect


When a lobster is prepared (cooked) for human consumption:

  1. boiling water

  2. put lobsters in the boiling water while still alive

  3. as the lobsters get boiled a slow death, they try to crawl out of the deep pot

  4. the lobsters at the bottom (unable to try and get out) pull back the escaping lobster into the boiling water to die


Lobster = us

Other lobsters = society, family, friends

Boiling water = your issues, drama, change, aging,

Pot = your social location


As humans, we do the same thing as the lobsters.

How do we do it to each other:

  1. we tell them they are making mistakes

  2. they can’t do it

  3. not good enough

  4. been done before

  5. will make you different – an outsider

  6. you will get hurt

  7. setting yourself up for failure


Result of the pulling back:

  1. doubt yourself (what if they are right?)

  2. don’t want to hurt feelings

  3. become afraid of risk

  4. become afraid of change


Possible outcomes:

  1. do it alone

  2. become estranged

  3. risk getting laughed at

  4. setting yourself up for failure

  5. “I told you so”


Eventual result:



and accept that we will

DIE a Brutal and Slow Death

waiting willingly each day

for change to happen

TO our self

instead of

making change happen

FOR our self.



2 comments on “Fear: The Lobster Effect

  1. Pierre says:

    Better to die trying to live, trying to save others, or doing something good. At least this way you know you did your best, others can see you did your best, and if you fail or die you do not do so in vain, but with honour.

    • I agree with you Pierre. Sadly, in the world we live in today, it is much easier not to bother trying because there is always a plethora of excuses avaialble to justify not reaching the goal. All we have to do is be more selective on whom we listen to when taking advice, etc.

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