In the pursuit of our lives, we are often distracted with the most important thing in our life:
We do everything to make the ME comfortable, as it should be, and ensure we are pain-free and without external conflict. It is the most natural thing the body does; and our minds, well it ensures we are emotionally pain-free.
We are always looking for secrets on how to be comfortable (and still safe) while enjoying the fuits of our existence. We bathe, sprinkle, cosmetize, stretch … well, you get the idea. And hopefully, we get what we want out of life.
We spend, and record, experience limits, buy swag, eat and eat. This way we get what we want – right? All we have to do is indulge ourself, right? Or is it?
Personally, I think – in this day and age, we would know enough about life and society and ourselves that tell us that all of these kind of distractions get us nowhere except further into the pit of ‘waiting to arrive’. We work hard at it too.
But if we were to concentrate less on ourselves and more on others, what are the chances we probably would have more than everything we ever wanted?
Sadly, in all our worlds we experience, there’s this underlying current of fear, mistrust, and misunderstanding that always gets ourselves into trouble. You know – the interpretations, assumptions, whispers, rumours, etc. That, of course, only gets us 1 thing for sure: trouble!
So, I’ve compiled a list of things we can do to get anything we ever wanted from people and our life. It’s not in order or comprehensive. I didn’t give much thought to it other than just write as I think it here. Do you want everything you ever wanted?
Be a Friend
No matter what, be there for someone. It always benefits everyone for a long time.
It’s easy to tell when someone is not really listening. When listening happens – things you never imagined before happens.
Be a Risk-Taker
Enjoy a little lottery of life without the money. Do something different that stands out. The greatest expression we can offer to others.
This is the only go around. We don’t get out of this life alive, so enjoy the leaf, flake, eye colour, tear, and all the beautiful results of life.
Understand “WII-FM” (what’s in it for me) concept
We all live in the realm of life that protects ourselves first (that’s why heroism is recognized). When we understand people – on an individual basis – and what they seek from life, we can connect on a deeper and more profound level.
The easiest and cheesiest way to get what you want. (Unless, of course, you worked your butt off saving money for a long-held dream). Besides, the joy wears off quickly enough.
Do this and people will love you. What else is there to want, huh?
Is influence a good thing? Does it depend on it’s motives? Can we influence and maintain the goodness of getting everything we want?
My personal favourite. At service to others can be an honour if employed in an altruistic and ‘good’ way. The world has many ways of looking at service as a way of being; and I tend to see it as the gateway to getting along with each other. Besides, we cannot survive without each other and that has a lot to do with serving others.
Be a Bully
I suppose this is a way – and it works most of the time. But while the bully is getting everything s/he wants, where the real meat of living takes place in the little interactions between people. The whole point of having everything is moot.
Here’s a bonus one, but I wouldn’t recommend it:
Wait for it to Happen
Sadly, this is where we tend to lurk when we want our goals and dreams to happen. And not even just those – but the next promotion, the minor surgery, the fitness, the …