Knowledge is Important – and I think we all can agree with that statement. Recorded history has shown us that our very continued existence as humankind is dependent on the success of gathering and disseminating correct knowledge.
This posting on Knowledge and Power is the first in a series of three I will be posting over the next 10 days. I will inquire about this issue of knowledge and how it is used in our lives.
I am certain we probably are already aware of what I write – because it is so pervasive. It is my hope over the next few days I can spark some thought to entice you to embrace possibilities in your life that come from the power in the knowledge you possess.
Let’s face it – everything we know and do is based on the transfer of that knowledge; and we as a human civilization have acknowledged and placed a high value on it.
As our civilizations grew, we became more and more obsessed with knowledge; and as a result, we created and developed systems and processes to maintain the integrity of knowledge. We were organizing ourselves as societies and we recognized that; so these are some of what we created ways to do:
- How to develop valuable knowledge,
- How to validate its authenticity,
- How we decide on the systems of organizing the information,
- Ways in which to gather it,
- The means of transferring the information,
- The use of that knowledge,
- and much, much more.
When this happened, we gave birth to the phenomenon of “Knowledge Is Power”. We created a living social way of dealing with knowledge. This is where POWER morphed from the “Physical” realm and into the “Intellectual”.
When we understood the incredibly immense power information held,
we then created systems to manipulate that information.
It is in these systems and processes where we need and want to better understand knowledge. And … it is in these systems where the greatest abuses take place – especially by those who wield the most power.
Why We WANT To Know About Knowledge
Knowledge Has Been Bastardized
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER IS INFLUENCE
After the world woke up to how knowledge can be used, the use of knowledge was used and manipulated to focus more on achieving the ends of its intention. On many occasions, the content of the information wasn’t/isn’t even important – it was the intention. (I will provide examples below.)
Along the way towards progress over the last 10 or so centuries, we became smarter (and more scared). A lot of that fear is/was rooted in the “fear of the unknown”. So, what was the most natural reaction to face that fear: WAR, of course. Then, as war became less of an annihilating proposition to protect our fear (after all, we are smarter, right?), we slowly began focusing our efforts on the power of information – or knowledge. Hmmm … mind games were born.
As a result, we invested time looking inward into the human psyche and biological processes (along with art and music and literature) because we started to have more free time to think (rather than react).
AHA ! ! !
The social rules of “democratic” life were then conceived, developed, and directed by leaders who best became experts in understanding the myriad of possibilities in achieving power by using knowledge. And what happened then:
Those rules favoured their own personal self-interests
(ie: influence) …
… then Laws were created to protect against
those rules and the people who dared to exercise them.
So what we have now is this graceful dance in society where we play the game of knowledge and power. Those with knowledge become powerful and those without … unfortunately, no so powerful.
Here are some ways in which knowledge is used against us (and we accept it):
The first step in creating POWER from your knowledge:
WE FORM GROUPS
Knowledge is no good to anyone if it is not shared.
This is how power was exercised (and still used) to give leaders their influence. Within these groups, individuals exercise their influence in their level of affiliation with that group. We see it in:
- Individual celebrities
- and many other types of groups.
What gives knowledge it’s power in these contexts is in the value we’ve GIVEN these groups (either individually or as a society). From that high value:
- We give them status and credibility.
- They exercise their power by having an effect on the actions of others.
- It is difficult to remove the group from their status group.
The Group holds the knowledge and decides how much is shared.
Knowledge as Benevolence.
In most instances, there is great value in the inquiry into the issue they are discussing, such as medical associations, or non-profit organizations, or philanthropists, for example. They draw out the brightest and best to advance the interests and (financial) opportunities of their field of interest and their group.
Knowledge as Influence.
For some, knowledge is used to exercise their influence/power on others. For these individuals, groups were formed to raise awareness, create social change, entice action, among other activities within change agency. They draw out the most compassionate and socially respectable who affect the majority of society. Their goals include making concrete differences in life. Therefore, we see groups such as neighbourhood clubs, athletic groups, and other localized and accessible groups.
Knowledge as Assets.
Still for others, knowledge is just a tool to give people more time or money. Knowledge is money and it is played in time. For those who really see life as a game – knowledge is the currency. Unfortunately, time has shown us where this area has been wildly abused. As it becomes more available and validated, we have found many instances of abuses by institutions who were held in high esteem and value in their societies and circles. Examples are found in the number of wrongful convictions discovered (DNA), or with countries trying to institute sedition laws, or when high-security information is leaked publicly about an entrenched group that cannot be denied (Vatican).
As we became accustomed to the whole idea of “knowledge is power”, we’ve mistakenly grown to give knowledge too much credit. Up until recently, we’ve too easily accepted the standards of the use of knowledge because we never knew the unimaginable amount of information available.
The saddest (and damning) result is that Knowledge
has been blindly accepted as a form of Truth by many people.
But now, here in the 21st Century, we are now faced with (probably) the most significant change our civilization will probably ever experience.
The walls of secrecy, information manipulation,
and concentration are coming down.
(We’re just having a hard time right now
because we are in the middle of that destruction!)
We’re Using Outdated Rationale and Practices
People are still clinging onto old processes.
What is real information/knowledge and what isn’t real and believable? The format of information – the digital transformation where it now all begins – has created the convenience of the transfer and manipulation of the knowledge, but we still want to hang onto the HARD COPY necessities of old and outdated practices. Digital information is still an evolving phenomenon.
We have seen over time that all the greatest advances in the world have taken place when the availability and transfer of knowledge increased. Look at the changes we’ve experienced such as the invention of writing tools, the printing press, morse code, telephone, television, and radio.
With these advances in society, and because of the acknowledged PRIZED value to society, the creation and transfer of knowledge gave us sets of rules of conduct and systems to manage information and ensure it’s integrity and value. From these, we got newspapers, books, literature, movies, advertising, won wars, greater health, and so much more to list.
The sources of knowledge also changed.
Where and how knowledge is taken in has been overran by technology changes the information highway. With the advent of computerization, the changes in securing the integrity of information has not been able stay up to pace with changes in technology. We are not accustomed to the speed of taking in information as it comes to us today. The same can be said for access to information; as it globally has never been so widely available before to us.
The Greatest Social Change Ever Experienced Is Upon Us
Today’s technology can be cause for confusion.
Technology can cause greater confusion among the masses because we are faced with thoughts (in the back of our mind) concerning what to read or view. Is there too much information? The quick pace of change has been overwhelming, and for half of society (mostly the older half, lol) – too quick. We have never been exposed to such quick changes – we were brought up to establish habits and routines.
Issues of trust is amplified.
There are many sources of TRUSTED information in many formats from many places. Skepticism among the general public (50% is under 30 years old) is increased because the established forms and sources of information no longer have their power. Established media cannot control information any more because they themselves are being overrun by credible competition.
The model for sharing is not just changed – it is transformed!
Whereas, before it was:
- information came in,
- information-holder decided what was worthy of releasing for public knowledge (for whatever reason – mostly money!),
- the information was released (or not) and spurred public discussion, then
- they moved onto the next issue/story/problem/upset.
The ability for true knowledge-sharing
is taking place
for the first time in civilized society;
AND it’s global.
SECRECY CAN NO LONGER BE ASSURED
Information is becoming more segmented and personal.
Where and how knowledge is used is now changing faster and has no current base from which to measure itself successfully without established credible systems and institutions.
- Over 50% world’s population is under 30
- Younger people have developed different needs and wants from their information.
- Individual “Niche Expertise” is becoming the new frontier in information sharing and the systems of knowledge exchange.
- Young people do not trust established sources of information.
- Now we have “crowd-sourcing” or “group-think”
As I have noted, Knowledge is NOT Power. There was a time when it was what made the world go ‘round; but with the events of the last 25 years, this is no longer the case.
In the next posting, I will look at the current struggle for maintaining the status quo, and how it is being feverishly supported and maintained with much at stake. It proves to be an interesting and eye-opening post.
See you then.
The media is powerful – you know it – I know it – we all know it.
We know their power is established in doing their work with honesty, integrity, and the highest degree of professionalism. They’ve fought for the right to hold that esteemed position; and as a result, we (the viewers/readers/listeners) have come to expect the media to live up to their responsibilities that come with being a part of the industry.
Because of the acknowledged MAJOR role media plays in our lives, our societies have developed “checks and balances” consisting of agreements, guidelines, and laws that ensure the media honours the privilege of their position in society. It gives us, the public peace of mind in believing “Big Brother” is being watched.
Sadly, it appears that over time, the public has come to unrealistically trust and believe the media’s commitment to “the truth”. Sadder still, recent events in the last few months have had me wonder whether the public has been duped into this false belief.
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Below, I list 4 examples of recent Media releases in the Toronto Canada market (within the last 3 months) that are at the very least, in very bad taste. When you group the incidents together according to what they do (according to the ELM Test of Integrity), it appears to me to be almost heinous in the powerful abuses they exercise in their actions.
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1 – TSN: The Sports Network – a national cable sports channel
There was a between-period segment where a number of commentators discuss issues and games based on their hockey expertise. The bit was about supportive relationship between a budding young hockey star and the coach of an NHL team. It was an inspiring and positive report.
After the segment, the hockey panel went on to remark on inappropriate relationships with young athletes. Because of what the NHL coach said, the panel made an inference of child abuse by an NHL coach by joking and commenting on the coach’s remarks that he had a good relationship with the young hockey star.
They further joked about it and laughed to give the impression that it was acceptable to laugh about child abuse.
Can you see the possible media abuse when I apply the “ELM Test”?
Ethical: They crossed the line when they brought in the issue of inappropriate relationships with young athletes when it wasn’t necessary.
Legal: They may have caused a legal issue by using the NHL coach as the butt of their jokes about having inappropriate relationships with young athletes.
Moral: They minimized the seriousness of the issue of inappropriate relationships with young athletes by making jokes about the issue.
As a victim and survivor of a sports coach abuse when I was a boy, I was very upset with the segment and how it was twisted. I wrote an email to them (mid-May), but I did not receive a response. I then wrote to another news outlet – they did not respond either.
2 – CP24: CityPulse24 – Toronto local 24-hr all-news channel
A “breaking-news” story came on the TV about two missing women. As is the standard protocol with news releases by the Toronto Police Service, they included information that could help identify the person that is missing.
The second woman broadcast included a description that seemed a bit odd. Along with the usual information (height, weight, hair, etc), it included that the person was Persian. I wondered how someone would know how to identify a Persian, and if there was still a country named Persia.
After I did some research, I found out the name of Persia is no longer in use. I also found out something else that actually scares me:
There was no Toronto Police media report about the missing person.
Actually, the media release didn’t happen until a few days later.
I wrote an email to CP24 asking where they got the reference to Persian, how it was part of the description, and it could be considered racist. They thanked me for my writing to them.
Can you see the possible media abuse when I apply the “ELM Test”?
Ethical: They crossed the line by adding something to the description that was never included in the first place. They manipulated hard news from the police.
Legal: How did they get the information from the Toronto Police Service? The official release wasn’t listed until a few days after the news first broke.
Moral: Was morally wrong to believe they can get away with misinformation. There was no police report (yet the inference was so), and they intentionally made up information.
3 – CTV: CTV News Toronto of national media network
There was a new news host on the program this particular evening. He was doing quite well until he got flustered. When that happened, it only got worse.
After the break, the host introduced the weather person; and unfortunately got her name wrong. After an embarrassing chatter to recover, the host then went on to compliment her on her beauty and the connection to her work.
The weather person handled it very well, and they moved on.
Can you see the possible media abuse when I apply the “ELM Test”?
Ethical: Is it unethical to use something in poor taste (in this day and age) such as referring to a (co-worker and) woman’s beauty to recover. What the heck was on his mind – and how did the weather person feel?
I didn’t find any other questions regarding this incident. I was wondering how they would apologize or even if they felt there was something for which to apologize to the viewers.
4 – Toronto Sun: local daily tabloid newspaper
I was reading the local newspaper and came across a photograph that didn’t look right. After further research, I noticed the “photograph” (as it was credited) appeared to be manipulated by creating an image from several others.
What caught my interest in this particular issue is that I was under the understanding that publicly published images has certain royalties, required credits, and correct information of the image. This image was listed as a photograph when it actually was not.
So, if they are willing to take liberties with something as minor as this; how many other instances has there been in the past? Do they often pass of images as photographs (and thereby deceiving the reading public)?
Can you see the possible media abuse when I apply the “ELM Test”?
Ethical: It appears the image has bee manipulated and has falsely given the reader the impression the image was taken as a complete shot in one take.
Legal: Given the issues with royalties and credits, I have to wonder if the image was created from just his shots or did he use public domain issues? How can the photographer claim any credit for something that isn’t an actual photograph?
Moral: I don’t know if there is a moral dilemma with this issue other than the photographer’s own feelings. Knowing that he did not create a photograph and only created an “image”, how does he come to terms with himself with the appearance of a fraud he is perpetrating?
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In all of these incidents (as subtle as they are),
the players are all professionals;
they know the media rules and guidelines;
and yet, it appears they still chose to put their integrity
in jeopardy by not responding when questioned.
When I tell someone it is possible to live life with Freedom from Fear, an interesting look comes over their face. They twist their mouth and raise an eyebrow as if to say, “Yeah, sure … right – like I’m afraid”.
Yet, I can also sense they know exactly what I am talking about, when a moment later they look at me with this look of confusion as they ponder the possibility with wonder and concern. (I’d like to know what’s going through their mind, lol)
(Actually, this happens a lot when I talk about things I’m not supposed to talk about – especially with guys!)
In this post, I will share with you some of my insights that can lead to possibilities to actually do what many of us see as impossible: Living Without Fear. I’ll include a couple of examples to make the point (so, I hope it doesn’t get too long).
Before we continue with this discussion, let’s recap what I asserted so far about fear:
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Fear is NOT REAL
It is just a LABEL we give to a FEELING IN OUR BODY (adrenalin)
OurMISTAKEN PERCEPTION of Fear can be changed
We call the feeling Fear if the moment it happens is a real or perceived threat, and
we call the feeling Excitement if the moment is pleasurable and exciting.
We can pick and choose either – OR NEITHER.
Fear is based on FALSE past memories
The interpretations of the feelings of fear can change over time just as the memory.
We CAN live WITHOUT Fear
Fear is only a STATE OF MIND.
All it takes is Awareness.
There is no work involved.
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Some Great Benefits To Living Without Fear
It changes our life beyond anything we could imagine.
While the changes are subtle at first, over time we begin to see a fantastic shift in our lives.
We not only transform our experience of life by the way we approach the outside world (and the colourful mosaic of individual differences), but the internal personal experience of our essence becomes magical because we have a better understanding of ourselves.
We become “intimate with ourselves and become closer with others”
We no longer have to live the feelings of having to do things for all the wrong reasons.
Once we peel away the layers of excuses we make up about NOT doing things we really want to do, we then realize the deep-seated fears that rule our lives rear their ugly head and expose themselves for what they are: Just a feeling I am mistakenly labelling fear!
Consider this: Compare what we do for ourself personally and what we do with our money – and see if you take the same care. With our money, we know we are taking risk regardless of what we are doing with it (even spending it). When we make large financial decisions, we feel the adrenalin rush and it gets us a little excited (or scared as heck, lol). After all, we are taking risk. But what we do next (if we are doing our due diligence), we do our research and maybe hire an expert for advice. As we become more confident with information, the thought about our bodily feeling changes as the adrenalin rush (or the memory of it) dissapates.
This is what happens: As we get to the bottom of information and strip away the perceived risks (that challenge our fears), we realize we can make well-founded decisions with confidence instead of fear.
We experience no more feelings of inadequacy.
We can pursue hobbies, career directions, activities, and opportunities we truly enjoy and are good at performing because it truly lights us up – WE CAN’T FEEL BAD – it’s impossible because we enjoy what we are doing.
For example: Instead of hiding your tiny art studio and work in your basement corner as a dirty little secret, you can take a risk (lol) and decide to show it publicly. You decide to show at the local community centre; and lo and behold, someone actually makes an offer on a piece. Another person invites you to show at the local artisan show. Once there, you then get another buyer for a piece and you meet 3 great people to chum around with and talk art.
This is what happens: Getting outside your head and shell, you finally express yourself and experience the rush of just having someone look at and appreciate your art work. The sales are bonus, and the new art friends are invaluable and allows you to stretch your imagination and boundaries.
Other people in our lives become more interesting and alive.
Because we know people live with their fears (just as we do ourselves), we can be more understanding and compassionate towards them. Conversations become easier to have with strangers because we know they are behaving out of their fears.
For example: A young man stands in the corner alone at a community social. You see him and imagine his possible fears (as well as the look on his face) and given the knowledge you now have about people and their fears, you can understand that he is so gripped with his fear within themselves, he cannot even talk to someone. Maybe he doesn’t want to sound silly, or say something wrong, or appear aloof. Sounds like a number of different possible fears, huh? And he feels like that just like we’ve all been at one time or another. You realize he could probably use a friend right now.
This is what happens: After speaking with the young man, you find out he is a fledgling artist and lives with his sick grandmother. He can’t go out much, so he is house-bound as well. You realize you know someone who could use an artist to do some web design. You link them up; and some months later, you find out he is able to get homecare assistance for his grandmother and is now enrolled at art school to take a program on web design – something he always wanted to do.
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Some Downsides To Living Without Fear
It goes without saying that there are some downsides to this new way of thinking and being. But these are usually temporary and the best thing that ever happened to us (in hindsight).
1 – People are going to see a change in us right away >> and they may not like it.
They were used to us cowering, or fighting back, or screaming, or crying. Certainly not someone more confident and relaxed. You are not reacting any more. And deep down, they know the fear is gone – and that changes everything. Then we quickly see them show true colours or their true expression of their own fears.
2 – Another thing to notice as we release Fear in our life is that we may take Risk less seriously.
Risk is what makes the world go ‘round, but that doesn’t mean we could just throw away caution to the wind. Some fears are real and require the proper investigation before taking action.
This EXTREMELY IMPORTANT downside to Living Without Fear
is probably the reason why we have people do reckless and dangerous things (especially among young people). And again, it is not always apparent – but I have deep and strong suspicions. I believe it happens immediately and ends up sinking deeply inside our memories.
The worst downside:
When we confuse or mistaken
the feeling of the adrenalin rush
Here are some examples:
Someone may drive home drunk one night and is scared of getting caught. After a couple of times (and it doesn’t take long to imprint the memory) of not getting caught despite the feeling of fear, s/he decides (for some reason) that it is actually exciting to be breaking the law and not get caught.
After a few more times, the excitement causes him/her to take more and more in order to re-create the feeling again. The progression of risk keeps getting higher and becomes a habit until something tragic happens.
Someone is living in debt and is scared of losing everything. Deciding on fixing the problem by going to the Casino, s/he is getting an incredible feeling of the adrenalin activated because of the risk. Once inside and gambling, the feeling gets stronger as you maintain hope of escaping the fear of poverty.
Then s/he wins a couple, and all of a sudden, the feelings of joy are connected with winning – and boy does it feel good. Eventually, the risk associated with the feeling is exciting and escalating and we want to re-live it again and again – so regardless of the outcome at the end of the night, if strong enough, the new feeling of excitement compels him/her to come back until something tragic happens.
In the next post on Fear, I will offer some suggestions on what we can actually DO to change the paradigm of running away and actually take action in our lives so we can “laugh in the face of fear”.
Success is a Master of Trickery and Disguise; and if it were a living entity, it would remind me of an impish and mischievous gargoyle watching over our every move and thought. Inspecting and judging without offering comprehensible guidance towards our dreams..
Success, achievement, project management, or whatever we choose to label it, can and usually does coat our life like warm dark syrup (or hot volcanic lava, lol). Based on my experience, we carve this path in our life that can be a slow, burning, and deliberate journey or rat-tat-tat stinging with exponential responsibilities – NEVER BEFORE FELT or IMAGINED! Questioning, imagining, and wondering with sometimes psychotic playfulness..
There will be times, while on your journey to freedom and personal expression, you will not recognize yourself because you will change as you move along chasing your dream. Consider that you’ve never travelled the road before, then most, if not all, experiences you will confront and conquer will be new and uncharted territory – especially if you are up to something completely off-the-wall or brand new.
The journey will at times make you feel like a hermit, and/or excited, psychotic, physically ill, questioning yourself, re-evaluating your choices and decision, scared as heck, and many, many more strange feelings of fear and loathing.
The disguise is how the journey towards success wraps itself in our life and then makes US decide what it all means.
Now, I’m talking about the meaning of your success – the perception of achieving your goal – the vision of knowing your dream – the accomplishment of fulfilling obligations and tasks – the feeling of excitement – waking up and skipping breakfast and a shower – the acknowledgement of your progress – and any other thing you can think of that comes to mind as you do the things that make you want to do the things.
Below, I provide you with four main steps or actions I consider and incorporate in my activities when I decide to take on a project. I am a bit anal about having a procedure or plan because that is the kind of thinking I have had impressed on me throughout my life.
I believe in accepting personal responsibility for our lives. A plan makes life easier. It makes living more fun and accessible. It gives my life meaning. And time and again, I’ve been told to HAVE A PLAN to get there. This is the world we live in – we need to do certain things to get certain things. So, I made this list of little reminders to prevent my GET-UP-AND-GO from GETTING-UP-AND-LEAVING.
Believe me, I have to follow these steps because I am human and I live with all the same frailties everyone else; So this is not always easy for me as well.
Over the years, through a lot of searching, training, and experimenting with success planning, I have developed this very BASIC Plan to get things done. It’s not the end all to planning for achievement; rather, it is just a simple list of reminders to keep me moving along the journey of achievement.
I hope you enjoy my suggestions and would be interested in hearing any feedback you may have. (This is not a perfect list, so I am always on the look out for new suggestions and ideas.)
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PICK YOUR DREAM
Ask anybody – they’ll tell you their dream.
“Admit to Yourself” HONESTLY and “Don’t Pretend”
- We have our story we show and tell the world; and we have inner secret truths about ourself we don’t share – our fears, dreams, joys, loves.. We’re not bad, just without the esteem we need and want to get to where we want to get.
- It’s easy to hide because then we feel better. Nobody is perfect – and we are ALL human, warts and all.
- We all live with the same fears, desires, and human conditioning – so you are not a freak. The more honest with yourself, the more success you will have in a shorter period of time.
Peel Away the Excuses
- There is a reason for everything we do and DON’T DO. This includes our dreams and goals. Some are real, and some are imagined.
- This is the most natural part of chasing dreams – most of us do it so we can separate the fact from the fiction. And, it is a very freeing and logical event to show yourself the ease of going for it.
- Once you strip down to your REAL SELF and the true person who you would like to express; you will feel the excitement returning.
- There is a reason for everything we do and DON’T DO. This includes our dreams and goals. Some are real, and some are imagined.
Don’t FREAK OUT!
- YOU WILL! It’s just a feeling – read my posts on fear.
- Don’t overwhelm yourself. Look back on your history when you’ve investigate a possibility of stepping out of your box. Does it remind you of previous sabotages?
- Stop – Breathe – Think – Get Fresh Air.
Take a Chance and Believe Your Dream
- Ask yourself: “If money and time wasn’t an issue, what would I rather be doing?” Don’t rely on your memory of past attempts – consider this question: “What if …?“
- You know you CAN – it may be just that you don’t know HOW. In this day and age – finding the HOW is the easiest thing you can ever do.
Anything Is POSSIBLE!
- Everything we see, experience, own, and use was first dreamed up in someone’s mind. It had to start somewhere – and the person just said to her/himself – WHY NOT?
- Chances are, if you haven’t been FORMALLY educated in the arena of your dreams, you are probably ahead of the game. Formal education dampens the spirit and turns dreams into jobs. If you are self-educated – all you need help with is the technicalities.
GET AN ALLY
Much respect for the straight-shooter
who whispers in our ear with love and without fear.
We Cannot Achieve ANYTHING Alone
- I guess if there was a truth in life – it may be this. History is filled with overwhelming evidence that we need other people in our dream with us to make a difference in OUR life and the lives of others.
- Bringing someone else into our dream takes a bit of courage. It also takes trust. It’s still worth sharing.
- There is someone out there who shares the same goals, values, and dreams as you. They just may not have the skills you have – or the joy, or the desire, or the motivation, etc.
A Mentor/Coach Loves the Honour
- You don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Someone’s been on this road before you.
- You won’t have a difficult time finding a Coach because people who are already working in the business love to be around others who have the hunger and desire to succeed and express themselves.
- Depending on your dream – the more groundbreaking or new – the better chances to find an excellent Mentor.
- It will take time.
Remember – Don’t FREAK OUT!
- Even at this point you will get restless. Thoughts of worthiness and personal value will creep in FROM YOUR OWN MIND.
- We are our own worst critics. Don’t believe the voice in the head – it loves to scare the heck out of you.
- AND, by the way, THIS IS NATURAL.
Be Kind to Yourself
- Make a list of your accomplishments – all of them from your childhood. You will be able to see you can achieve things when you put your mind to it.
- You will also notice how things you have done in the past all MYSTERIOUSLY fit in with the dream you want to fulfill.
Build An Extended Team
- Besides having your Mentor/Coach, you will need to have trusted people in your life in other areas as well.
- Bring together a “TEAM” that can support you on different levels in different areas. You may want to have someone be a sounding board, someone to help with a proposal or business plan, some to help with money management, someone for mental health upsets.
- Try to avoid people who are closest to you for guidance or advice unless they are truly impartial. Otherwise, they either won’t understand what you are really up or they may not like the changes they are seeing..
MAKE A PLAN
There can be no conflict if you are awaiting it’s arrival.
Get an Outline for Your Dream/Idea/Project/Business/Craft
- As I previously mentioned, information is available everywhere – and most is FREE. Online, you can get some kind of organizational assistance on ANYTHING you are interested in pursuing.
- Your Coach/Mentor will be a good source in this area.
- Remember, to enroll anybody in your dream – they want EVIDENCE to know if you are chasing a DREAM or just a PIPE-DREAM. This will show them you are serious.
Understand it is ALSO a Business (even if not intended or as planned)
- I heard a saying years ago (I’m probably paraphrasing because I can’t remember who said it): “If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you got there?”
- Your dream will need MONEY. In today’s world that’s an unavoidable fact. But you need to know how much financially your dream will need so it doesn’t become an issue later on – especially if you are just about to get on the CREST OF GREATNESS.
- Your dream will need TIME. This is important because people in your current life will still want your time and attention
- Your dream will need EFFORT. Are you up for the CHALLENGE? Is it in you physically and emotionally?
- Having a plan will take away a lot of surprises.
Know Yourself HONESTLY and Don’t Pretend
- See (in your mind’s eye) how the achievement will look when you get there. From the exercise you performed at the beginning, since you know what REAL skills and talents you possess, you will be able to see what you have to do.
- Is more education required? Do you need to save some money? Where do you lack the understanding?
- Creative people especially, are more prone to have difficulty in this area because it’s difficult to separate the EMOTIONAL from the RATIONAL when making a plan. It’s not a part of the mental makeup when it comes to fulfilling DREAMS.
I’ll Say It Again – Don’t FREAK OUT!
Planning is probably the MOST VOLATILE AREA OF DREAM DEVELOPMENT for the dream chaser.
- A lot of stress, miscommunication, and effort will be created because of the differences between dreamer and the people brought in to help with the dream. Different sides of the brain is used between the relationships; so there will be clashes many times because of a deep misunderstanding of the needs required to perform roles.
THIS IS VERY NORMAL.
- Just be PATIENT – Don’t end RELATIONSHIPS – Don’t walk away – and DON’T QUIT!!
Create a BALANCE in your activities
- Dream chasing takes a lof of our time – sometimes too much. People (and maybe yourself) will wonder whether it is becoming an unhealthy obsession or addiction.
- Your health will be affected, your relationships will change, your time will disappear, and, at times, nothing else will matter. (Sometimes, this kind of personal selfishness will be essential.)
- In your time management plan for your dream, make sure you include ALL areas that make up our lives: exercise, entertainment, socializing, EATING, going outside, etc. You get the picture and probably know what I mean if you’ve ever chased dreams in the past.
KEEP GETTING UP – DON’T GIVE UP!
The Only Lifeguard That Saves Us EVERY TIME
The Bigger the Plan, the Bigger the Challenge
- Like everything in life, you get out of it what you put into it. When we are creating dreams, we are putting out a lot of negative influence on your OLD life – so your OLD LIFE will push back – and not always nicely.
- Think of the computer acronym GIGO – Garbage In, Garbage Out.
- Chances are, you are going to be taking on the biggest challenge in your life as you chase your dream. Just think of this: if you have to rationalize going after your Dream once again, then you have to have all your bases covered. That means having the answers to all the difficult questions as well.
- If you have really BIG CHALLENGES – then you are pushing your plan – good for you!
- No matter how big the problem/challenge, everything can be overcome
Keep the End Result (of your first goal) in Front of You
- When the frustration starts to set in, just remind yourself why you are doing all this work.
- I use displays and symbols to help me. I always have some kind of visual reminder on my wall, in my pockets, pictures on computer, etc. so I can quickly remind me what kind of freedom I will have when I accept I am realizing my dream.
- Use clippings from magazines, photos of people you admire, quotes and anecdotes, etc.
- Don’t forget to use your team – they expect you to reach out to them.
It’s natural that everything goes up and down – so will you
- If you have at least 25 years of life under your belt, then you understand by now that life is a funny thing. It is unpredictable, fun, scary, sweet, angry, enlightening, and so much more.
LIFE forever changes from moment to moment.
- Like everything else, your moods, successes, and moments of elation will also change.
EVERYTHING IS NORMAL!
Don’t FREAK OUT!
- Once again, and I can’t say it enough, you will! Something will happen that will knock you off your feet and kick you between the teeth. THIS IS NORMAL and happens more often on a daily basis as you PROGRESS along your SUCCESS JOURNEY.
- When things get overwhelming, watch some videos by Les Brown. He is a great motivator who can get you out of your funk of feeling down, or stressed, or just plain tired.
DON’T DECIDE TO GIVE UP – IT’S NOT WORTH GIVING IN!
So, that wraps up this installment of my understanding on achievement.
When Success is appearing to engage in Trickery and Disguise; remember that the journey will be difficult AND it will be fun and exhilarating.
Consider these suggestions when chasing your Dream and PICK YOUR DREAM; then ensure you FIND AN ALLY; make sure you have at least some kind of PLAN; and finally, KEEP GETTING UP.
You will reach every goal to which you’ve ever aspired to achieve and excel.
Have you given up yet?
Are you tired of going after what you want and not quite reaching the goal/dream?
So now you are ready to settle – settle in, huh?
Are you aware that you can still chase your dreams and goals?
It sometimes seems like the older we get, the harder it is to keep up, or stay motivated, or to think about the changes we’ve got to make to reach for our prize. Heck, when we were kids, we played and dreamed and experimented with all that life offered (in a world of possibility) just for the reason of tasting it.
It’s very possible that we already discovered our “calling”, “purpose”, “meaning” of our life a long time ago. We knew then what we wanted to do. But now – it’s the physical challenges we’ve got to face. Or maybe the emotional challenges staring at us. How about the psychological challenges (that voice in our head) that’s always haunting us?
This is what I think I know about change and life so far:
1 – Change is inevitable – it happens every second of every day.
2 – With change comes a natural challenge:
Newton’s Third Law of Attraction:
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
3 – The bigger the change – the bigger the challenge
We are naturally organic and in sync
with all life and others.
We are all balls of energy (supported by science, religion, sociology, et al by the way). Therefore, it would make sense that we are susceptible to the natural forces such as constant change in life.
We can choose for our life’s future
(for ourself, by ourself, within ourself)
to be either:
a CHAMPION of personal confidence and freedom,
a VICTIM of life’s circumstances.
We plan, prepare, and exercise how to minimize damage from the challenges life gives us – police, dams, walls, trauma care, car accidents, disasters, etc. We do this because we know if there is a challenge bigger than ourselves, we’ve made concessions and invested the time and money from our lives to ensure it is disrupted as little as possible.
Let’s use car and accident insurance as an example:
We buy these insurances because we know that every time we get behind the wheel of the car, there is a challenge lurking. Backing out the car is a challenge, moving to the street is another, driving down the street poses even another. We know these challenges lurk, because we buy the insurance after all; and as drivers, we cannot trust implicity 100% that circumstances/challenges/accidents will not occur while on the road.
Yet, we are confident that we will be ok regardless (outside the loss of life) of the accident because we are covered by insurance.
So this is what we do:
We plan our needs for driving
We invest the money to ensure we have adequate coverage
We are prepared for any kind of challenge/circumstance/accident/upset.
As a result, we are a confident driver, relaxed and enjoying the ride, and trusting the world a little more as you venture out into the world of chaos and hazard.
This is pretty easy, isn’t it? We know what we have to do, and it isn’t a difficult thing to do. These kind of decisions and actions take place every moment of our lives. The only difference is that some are big (like moving to another city) and some are small (like taking a night class in English Lit or Auto Maintenance). It’s when we don’t look at our life circumstances, and the real forces of challenge that are affecting us when making arrangements to create positive changes that gets us in trouble. We become victims of the agency, the other driver, the agent, the cops, the distractions – anything other than ourselves. The circumstance WE created is responsible for the “problem” (or challenge) we now face.
But there is some great news!
So, ask yourself these questions:
If time and money were not issues you had to face to pursue your dreams and goals, what would you be doing?
If everybody told you that you CAN do it, what would you be doing?
If you truly believed in yourself and just knew you give anything to do your thing, what would you be doing?
If there was no risk to you or your family pursuing your dreams, what would you be doing?
Stay tuned for more detail on Change in future posts.