Now that I am back, I’ve decided to make a few changes to the blog. I am going to experiment with a “Theme” concept in my future writings. Instead of writing huge blogs that are too long and winded; I’ve decided to break them down into smaller bits for your reading pleasure.
So, instead of one post on a topic, I will post over a few days (or weeks) on that theme. I will do this beginning with the very next posting. If you are inclined to help me out, your feedback will be welcomed after we’ve had some time to digest this first idea.
The first theme I will be writing about is about Life Purpose. Below is a rough guide on what I will be discussing. Although I do want to publish regularly on Mondays and Thursdays; I may lean outside the rules on occasion.
“Touching Freedom: Living A Life With Purpose”
1 – Mon – What is (Life) Purpose?
2 – Thu – Why is Purpose important?
3 – Mon – What is life like Without and With Purpose?
4 – Thu – What stops us from living our Life Purpose?
5 – Mon – What does it take to live our life with Purpose?
6 – Thu – The greatest payoffs from living our life with Purpose?
Success is a Master of Trickery and Disguise; and if it were a living entity, it would remind me of an impish and mischievous gargoyle watching over our every move and thought. Inspecting and judging without offering comprehensible guidance towards our dreams..
Success, achievement, project management, or whatever we choose to label it, can and usually does coat our life like warm dark syrup (or hot volcanic lava, lol). Based on my experience, we carve this path in our life that can be a slow, burning, and deliberate journey or rat-tat-tat stinging with exponential responsibilities – NEVER BEFORE FELT or IMAGINED! Questioning, imagining, and wondering with sometimes psychotic playfulness..
There will be times, while on your journey to freedom and personal expression, you will not recognize yourself because you will change as you move along chasing your dream. Consider that you’ve never travelled the road before, then most, if not all, experiences you will confront and conquer will be new and uncharted territory – especially if you are up to something completely off-the-wall or brand new.
The journey will at times make you feel like a hermit, and/or excited, psychotic, physically ill, questioning yourself, re-evaluating your choices and decision, scared as heck, and many, many more strange feelings of fear and loathing.
The disguise is how the journey towards success wraps itself in our life and then makes US decide what it all means.
Now, I’m talking about the meaning of your success – the perception ofachieving your goal– the vision ofknowing your dream – the accomplishment offulfilling obligations and tasks– the feeling ofexcitement– waking up andskipping breakfast and a shower – the acknowledgement of your progress – and any other thing you can think of that comes to mind as you do the things that make you want to do the things.
Below, I provide you with four main steps or actions I consider and incorporate in my activities when I decide to take on a project. I am a bit anal about having a procedure or plan because that is the kind of thinking I have had impressed on me throughout my life.
I believe in accepting personal responsibility for our lives. A plan makes life easier. It makes living more fun and accessible. It gives my life meaning. And time and again, I’ve been told to HAVE A PLAN to get there. This is the world we live in – we need to do certain things to get certain things. So, I made this list of little reminders to prevent my GET-UP-AND-GO from GETTING-UP-AND-LEAVING.
Believe me, I have to follow these steps because I am human and I live with all the same frailties everyone else; So this is not always easy for me as well.
Over the years, through a lot of searching, training, and experimenting with success planning, I have developed this very BASIC Plan to get things done. It’s not the end all to planning for achievement; rather, it is just a simple list of reminders to keep me moving along the journey of achievement.
I hope you enjoy my suggestions and would be interested in hearing any feedback you may have. (This is not a perfect list, so I am always on the look out for new suggestions and ideas.)
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PICK YOUR DREAM
Ask anybody – they’ll tell you their dream.
“Admit to Yourself” HONESTLY and “Don’t Pretend”
We have our story we show and tell the world; and we have inner secret truths about ourself we don’t share – our fears, dreams, joys, loves.. We’re not bad, just without the esteem we need and want to get to where we want to get.
It’s easy to hide because then we feel better. Nobody is perfect – andwe are ALL human, warts and all.
We all live with the same fears, desires, and human conditioning – so you are not a freak. The more honest with yourself, the more success you will have in a shorter period of time.
Peel Away the Excuses
There is a reason for everything we do and DON’T DO. This includes our dreams and goals. Some are real, and some are imagined.
This is the most natural part of chasing dreams – most of us do it so we can separate the fact from the fiction. And, it is a very freeing and logical event to show yourself the ease ofgoing for it.
Once you strip down to your REAL SELF and the true person who you would like to express; you will feel the excitement returning.
Don’t FREAK OUT!
YOU WILL! It’s just a feeling – read my posts onfear.
Don’t overwhelm yourself. Look back on your history when you’ve investigate a possibility of stepping out of your box. Does it remind you of previous sabotages?
Stop – Breathe – Think – Get Fresh Air.
Take a Chance and Believe Your Dream
Ask yourself: “If money and time wasn’t an issue, what would I rather be doing?” Don’t rely on your memory of past attempts – consider this question: “What if …?“
You know you CAN – it may be just that you don’t know HOW. In this day and age – finding the HOW is the easiest thing you can ever do.
Anything Is POSSIBLE!
Everything we see, experience, own, and use wasfirst dreamed up in someone’s mind. It had to start somewhere – and the person just said to her/himself – WHY NOT?
Chances are, if you haven’t been FORMALLY educated in the arena of your dreams, you are probably ahead of the game. Formal education dampens the spirit and turns dreams into jobs. If you are self-educated – all you need help with is the technicalities.
GET AN ALLY
Much respect for the straight-shooter
who whispers in our ear with love and without fear.
We Cannot Achieve ANYTHING Alone
I guess if there was a truth in life – it may be this. History is filled with overwhelming evidence that we need other people in our dream with us to make a difference in OUR life and the lives of others.
Bringing someone else into our dream takes a bit of courage. It also takestrust. It’s still worth sharing.
There is someone out there who shares the same goals, values, and dreams as you. They just may not have the skills you have – or the joy, or the desire, or the motivation, etc.
A Mentor/Coach Loves the Honour
You don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Someone’s been on this road before you.
You won’t have a difficult time finding a Coach because people who are already working in the business love to be around others who have the hunger and desire to succeed and express themselves.
Depending on your dream – the more groundbreaking or new – the better chances to find an excellent Mentor.
It will take time.
Remember – Don’t FREAK OUT!
Even at this point you will get restless. Thoughts of worthiness and personal value will creep in FROM YOUR OWN MIND.
We are our own worst critics. Don’t believe the voice in the head – it loves to scare the heck out of you.
AND, by the way, THIS IS NATURAL.
Be Kind to Yourself
Make a list of your accomplishments – all of them from your childhood. You will be able to see you can achieve things when you put your mind to it.
You will also notice how things you have done in the past all MYSTERIOUSLY fit in with the dream you want to fulfill.
Build An Extended Team
Besides having your Mentor/Coach, you will need to have trusted people in your life in other areas as well.
Bring together a “TEAM” that can support you on different levels in different areas. You may want to have someone be a sounding board, someone to help with a proposal or business plan, some to help with money management, someone for mental health upsets.
Try to avoid people who are closest to you for guidance or advice unless they are truly impartial. Otherwise, they either won’t understand what you are really up or they may not like the changes they are seeing..
MAKE A PLAN
There can be no conflict if you are awaiting it’s arrival.
Get an Outline for Your Dream/Idea/Project/Business/Craft
As I previously mentioned, information is available everywhere – and most is FREE. Online, you can get some kind of organizational assistance on ANYTHING you are interested in pursuing.
Your Coach/Mentor will be a good source in this area.
Remember, to enroll anybody in your dream – they want EVIDENCE to know if you are chasing a DREAM or just a PIPE-DREAM. This will show them you are serious.
Understand it is ALSO a Business (even if not intended or as planned)
I heard a saying years ago (I’m probably paraphrasing because I can’t remember who said it): “If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you got there?”
Your dream will need MONEY. In today’s world that’s an unavoidable fact. But you need to know how much financially your dream will need so it doesn’t become an issue later on – especially if you are just about to get on the CREST OF GREATNESS.
Your dream will need TIME. This is important because people in your current life will still want your time and attention
Your dream will need EFFORT. Are you up for the CHALLENGE? Is it in you physically and emotionally?
Having a plan will take away a lot of surprises.
Know Yourself HONESTLY and Don’t Pretend
See (in your mind’s eye) how the achievement will look when you get there. From the exercise you performed at the beginning, since you know what REAL skills and talents you possess, you will be able to see what you have to do.
Is more education required? Do you need to save some money? Where do you lack the understanding?
Creative people especially, are more prone to have difficulty in this area because it’s difficult to separate the EMOTIONAL from the RATIONALwhen making a plan. It’s not a part of the mental makeup when it comes to fulfilling DREAMS.
I’ll Say It Again – Don’t FREAK OUT!
Planning is probably the MOST VOLATILE AREA OF DREAM DEVELOPMENT for the dream chaser.
A lot of stress, miscommunication, and effort will be created because of the differences between dreamer and the people brought in to help with the dream. Different sides of the brain is used between the relationships; so there will be clashes many times because of a deep misunderstanding of the needs required to perform roles.
THIS IS VERY NORMAL.
Just bePATIENT– Don’t end RELATIONSHIPS – Don’t walk away – and DON’T QUIT!!
Create a BALANCE in your activities
Dream chasing takes a lof of our time– sometimes too much. People (and maybe yourself) will wonder whether it is becoming an unhealthy obsession or addiction.
Your health will be affected, your relationships will change, your time will disappear, and, at times, nothing else will matter. (Sometimes, this kind of personal selfishness will be essential.)
In your time management plan for your dream, make sure you include ALL areas that make up our lives: exercise, entertainment, socializing, EATING, going outside, etc. You get the picture and probably know what I mean if you’ve ever chased dreams in the past.
KEEP GETTING UP–DON’T GIVE UP!
The Only Lifeguard That Saves Us EVERY TIME
The Bigger the Plan, the Bigger the Challenge
Like everything in life, you get out of it what you put into it. When we are creating dreams, we are putting out a lot of negative influence on your OLD life – so your OLD LIFEwill push back – and not always nicely.
Think of the computer acronym GIGO – Garbage In, Garbage Out.
Chances are, you are going to be taking on the biggest challenge in your life as you chase your dream. Just think of this: if you have to rationalize going after your Dream once again, then you have to have all your bases covered. That means having the answers to all the difficult questions as well.
If you have really BIG CHALLENGES – then you are pushing your plan – good for you!
No matter how big the problem/challenge, everything can be overcome
Keep the End Result (of your first goal) in Front of You
When the frustration starts to set in, just remind yourself why you are doing all this work.
I usedisplays and symbolsto help me. I always have some kind of visual reminder on my wall, in my pockets, pictures on computer, etc. so I can quickly remind me what kind of freedomI will have when I acceptI am realizing my dream.
Use clippings from magazines, photos of people you admire, quotes and anecdotes, etc.
Don’t forget touse your team– they expect you to reach out to them.
It’s natural that everything goes up and down – so will you
If you have at least 25 years of life under your belt, then you understand by now that life is a funny thing. It is unpredictable, fun, scary, sweet, angry, enlightening, and so much more.
LIFE forever changes from moment to moment.
Like everything else, your moods, successes, and moments of elation will also change.
EVERYTHING IS NORMAL!
Don’t FREAK OUT!
Once again, and I can’t say it enough, you will! Something will happen that will knock you off your feet and kick you between the teeth. THIS IS NORMAL and happens more often on a daily basis as you PROGRESS along your SUCCESS JOURNEY.
When things get overwhelming, watch somevideos by Les Brown. He is a great motivator who can get you out of your funk of feeling down, or stressed, or just plain tired.
DON’TDECIDE TO GIVE UP – IT’S NOT WORTH GIVING IN!
. So, that wraps up this installment of my understanding on achievement.
When Success is appearing to engage in Trickery and Disguise; remember that the journey will be difficult AND it will be fun and exhilarating.
Consider these suggestions when chasing your Dream and PICK YOUR DREAM; then ensure youFIND AN ALLY; make sure you have at least some kind ofPLAN; and finally,KEEP GETTING UP.
You will reach every goal to which you’ve ever aspired to achieve and excel.